24 Nov The Competition Myth – Success is an Inside Job!
I go bonkers when an artist says “My song is just as good as that song, why is it number one and mine isn’t?” or “I’m just as smart as she is, why is she doing so well and I’m struggling?” and “Why do they have such a great job and I’m barely getting by?” Yikes! Why are so many people asking the wrong question, focused outward instead of inward? Why do we think someone else is living our life!? Why don’t we know that no one can steal what is meant for you? Every time you ask “Why not me?” in comparing or in competition with someone else, you’re off track. Snap out of it! We are each the only one on this planet meant to do and be who we are…no one else can be you or me. When you know that, when you really know that, you can relax because you know no one can take anything from you. It’s like a key to a safe and your dream is inside. There is only one perfect match, one key. Someone can rob all the locksmiths in the city, open a million safes, but if they don’t have your key, they can’t get to you. They can try their keys in every door, but you’re the only one it opens for. They can’t open your safe; they can’t steal your dream. You are the only one with your key; the key to your life, your future, your spouse, your children, your company, your bank account, your fame, your success, because it’s yours. I tell those who focus on the success of others – focus on you, no matter what you are doing be your best, be extraordinary and ignore everyone else. Focus on making you, your company, your product invaluable and good things will happen.
But you can choose to never use the key. By focusing on everyone else instead of you, you can never life your dream. To live your dream, to succeed, no matter how you define success your number one objective has to be “How to be the best you, and how to be the best at what you do”. Focus on others to teach you how to do better, not to make you feel smaller. Focus on others for inspiration, to learn, to understand your market, to absorb ideas that work, to innovate. As an entrepreneur, I’ve had a lot of ups and downs, challenges that left me wondering how I would survive, but I always force myself back to the critical question; how do I do better? What lesson was here for me? What do I still need to learn, how do I become the best me? What do I need to see that I don’t see? How can I build the best company? Do I believe in what I’m doing? Why am I doing it? How can I serve? How can I serve more? Answering those questions opens the door to success. Those are questions that excite, questions that drive you forward in the face of life, and all that happens. Get excited, do the work, stay excited and the rest will come. And let’s face it, isn’t being excited more fun than feeling inadequate? 🙂